Nowadays, most of us want to live a comfortable life with as few as possible struggles in our daily life, but the truth is: the world can be harsh and brutal and can suddenly change.
When you don’t expect something bad to happen it will hit like a bomb. When you are prepared for the things that are a certain struggle in life, you will be much more relaxed.
That said, hre are 5 truths in life that hurt but will help you and as the German poet Nietzsche said:
“What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”
1. You Can’t Please Everybody
We strive to fulfil the needs of everyone for several reasons. It’s natural to want to be liked and accepted by other people. If your judgments and actions are influenced by others, you’re a people pleaser.
If you are continually trying to impress others, it will have a detrimental impact on your own life. People will always have an opinion on anything, no matter how hard you try to make them like you.
The more you rely on others for approval, the less control you’ll have over your own life. Being a people pleaser is not just a bad way to waste your life, but it’s also a bad way to live it.
Your decisions and behaviors aren’t entirely based on your preferences since they’re contingent on others’ approval. If you live for others instead of yourself all of the time, you’ll soon lose who you are.
2. Money Doesn’t Make You Happy (Financial Freedom Does)
When we think about spending money, we usually think of buying things. As humans, we, on the other hand, adapt to new elements in our environment astonishingly effectively over time.
These products no longer seem unique to us at some time in our life, and at that moment, money no longer makes you happy when you purchase things.
Our attitude toward money and how we manage it has a greater impact on our happiness than how much money we have or produce. As a result, it is important to have a positive attitude toward money and maintain a good financial situation.
If you believe that money dictates happiness, you may get trapped in a loop of continuously wanting to acquire more. (I’ve been there) More money, yet never feeling satisfied.
This indicates that you have a lot of influence over your happiness, and only a little portion of it is determined by your financial situation.
3. You Can’t Change Your Past, But You Can Create Your Future
This is a very cliche one, but let me explain to you why it’s important.
We’re all prone to reminiscing. It’s excellent up to a point, but after that, it’s a headache waiting to happen. As a consequence, we let ruminating, worrying, and dread control our thoughts and behaviors in the present.
Keep what you’ve learned in mind, let go of any hurt, and move ahead into the present–and then the future.
You create a way for something new to develop when you shed your old problems, failures, defeats, and worries.
You’ll discover how to conquer each new difficulty that comes your way.
4. Thinking About Yourself Isn’t Bad — Do It More Often
Let’s make thinking about yourself more practical: invest in yourself. Investing in yourself may seem self-sufficient, but it’s just as important to invest in the people you hang out with.
Personal ambitions and aspirations are simply that.
Everyone, though, has experienced burnout or poor self-esteem at some point. Good friends comfort you and drive you to reach your greatest potential when this occurs.
They’re more likely to be active listeners or push your thoughts than casual friends.
Then there are goals. Set them.
Goals assist you in staying focused, organizing your time and resources, and staying motivated.
And if you’re ever stressed or almost burned-out; you know you got to remove something from your life. You may reduce stress and anxiety while also increasing productivity by clearing out needless clutter.
5. You Don’t Control Everything — Therefore You Shouldn’t Worry
We often squander a lot of time and energy worrying about things we can’t control. What’s more, how much time is too much time?
Success, according to the Stoics, is defined as anything better than nothing.
Why? We do this because trying to influence things you don’t have control over is pointless and distracts from the necessity of acting on the things you do have control over.
In the past, I’ve noticed that I’ve done it a lot.
Now, I make a deliberate effort to concentrate again on the essence of things when I see myself going from a positive to a negative state of mind.